Discussion question: Describe Stroebe’s dual process model of coping with loss. Why do you think this “balance” is important in helping one recover from grief? How do the different needs and abilities of clients affect the counseling interventions? Classmate response: Stroebe’s Dual Process model of coping with death and loss involves an oscillating balance between “loss-oriented stressors” and “restoration-oriented stressors” (Kail & Cavanaugh, 2016, p. 575). The client may focus for a while on the pain and grief related to loss through a variety of activities and behaviors, from grief work to denial or avoidance of things perceived as ‘moving on.’ On the other side of the spectrum, they may focus on thoughts and activities they associate with ‘moving on.’ This may involve doing new things, and can also include avoidance or denial of grief by staying busy with new activities. From this perspective, this oscillation is essential for the eventual ability of the client to cope with grief and simultaneously move forward in a healthy way over time. This balance is important because we need to both grieve and move forward. The amount each person needs also varies from person to person, so counselors need to be careful not to set standards or define ‘normal’ behavior too quickly. Some clients may need more time to grieve than others. Clients who need less time and start moving forward pretty quickly should not be shamed for grieving too little. The counselor must also help the client to engage in the other side of the Dual Process model, too. We cannot just allow one client to eternally grieve, and never engage in ‘moving forward’ behaviors. We also cannot allow clients to exclusively move forward, and not take time to appropriately grieve. Counseling interventions will often focus on the side of the Dual Process model that the client struggles the most with.